Hi friends.
Happy hump day! It is only one day to go until our flight home woohoo! I am beyond exited and been looking forward to this day since ever. To anyone who previously asked if I ever feeling homesick, yes of course. I always do. But I have booked our flight home since October (I think) and it feels so much better after that knowing that there is something (or should I say, someday) to look forward to. We had to change the date once, pushing it to a later date but it is finally (almost) here! To KL Tower back there, I am coming to you.
So just now, I took a time off from packing to scroll my instagram for a while. There are few people I have been following that I always look forward to their blabbers everyday. That is why I always tell people that social media is a good platform. But only if you are always be aware of who you are following. Just make sure that their contents are empowering and inspiring you and not pulling you down. However, there is one picture (plus things that going on around me) that drawn me to be chatty here.
Well basically I saw a picture of my friend, looking so much different now after almost a year getting into marriage and it is something I really want to blab about. This friend of mine has got married about a year ago and I have been seeing how much he has grown in size. I am still okay with that, but what makes me gaze was how scruffy and messy he looks. That is what I don’t really into. People who disregard their looks the moment they are into marriage.
I am still new in marriage and I am still struggling to get used to it. I am aware that I am not entitled to speak of how others are feeling but all I want to say are my basic principles.
To be honest, even my husband and I have gained weight since we got married. We have not been running and exercising as much anymore. Also, we spent more time at home now and I have been cooking a lot. Good for me, my husband just loves all my cookings and he will finish everything I made. I tried to balance it out with healthy menu every now and then but of course it is hard if you did not couple it with exercise. That is definitely something that we want to improve this year. In fact, I have signed us up for running events later this year to make sure that we will start running again in preparation for the event. Your lifestyle is definite your choice and you choose if you want to lead a healthy lifestyle or to just be a bum.
Having said that, I do not think that we have grown too much out of proportion and actually I still love how my body is looking now. I was super small before this, and it is nice to have a bit of something going on. However, we still want to make sure that we are still in normal (aka healthy) range.
Your look on the other hand is easier to manage. You don’t have to look like a million dollar baby but keeping things neat is essential. Nobody can deny that the first impression starts from your look. It defines who you are. Either you just don’t care, caring or care too much kinda person. You might say that you don’t care about what other thinks of you. But truth is, the most time you spent is with your significant other. Do you really don’t care about what he/she is seeing?
I remember having someone close to me asking why am I still putting on make up now that I am married. Point is, I am never putting on make up to impress guys. It is more for my own confidence. I always know how my skin looks like without make up and I was not super confidence with my bare skin. If you have read my skin journey, you would know what a struggle it has been for me before. Having getting all question about my skin condition is heartbreaking and I need all coverage I can get to avoid further explanations. Now my skin has recovered, I have changed my routine to much lighter and neutral look. Maybe someday I will ditch the whole make up routine but there is a long way to go.
Apart from that, I am always trying to look nice even when I am at home with my husband because I really care. I make sure that I showers right after I cooked and I might just put on a lip balm or cheek stain if needed. I bought nice dresses and pj for at home to look nicer. Seriously, will anyone be at peace if you sitting next to someone who smells like onions and wearing torn shirts? I feels like it is equally (if not more important) to be nice at home for someone you deeply love than for a client that you will meet for 30 minutes. Yes, you can let loose, get your hair down and wear kaftan at home. But never messy and smelly.
It might be easier for me as I am not working now and I do not have kids yet but I must starts somewhere. If I cannot do it now, imagine how bad it will be once things change. Even if you are still single, start taking care of yourself and make it a habit. Hopefully it will stays until forever and you would not have any problem once there is you have another person to live with.
There used to be time when guys are complaining about their partner who are not taking care of their look and make it an excuse to look for someone else. It is definitely unfair. It also definitely why house chores must be shared together so your wife have extra time to take care of themselves. Buy them nice clothes and most importantly, preach by example. I believe that both partners must be aware of how they look and it doesn’t stopped at the lady only.
At the end of the day, it is your choice to live how your life and to determine how you look. I am not here to judge anyone but merely just sharing how I feel. More that that, I am just justifying why I need to buy that new foundation I am eyeing at and why I always more clothes in laundry even when I stays at home most of the time. LOL.
I shall get back to packing and to whoever I am seeing back home, see you soon babes! To everyone, have a great day and take care of yourself darling. 🙂
Assalamualaikum to brothers and sisters.
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